Nobody should ever get raped for shipping on eBay. It is real easy to ask ahead of time, and if you don't like the number, don't bid or negotiate. $23 to cover shipping, packaging, eBay listing fees and PayPal fees is damn reasonable. $11 is too cheap. The guy did you a favor and it looks like you didn't think this out before complaining. That is not the sellers fault, it's yours.