First off, i was reluctant to respond to this post since the name bigsexxy makes me feel like i'm replying to a sleezy craigslist list ad, something i don't do anymore.
Come on man, have a mod change it. (unless you are some kinda of fat chick that thinks they're sexy)
Second, engine vibration and driveline vibration are two completely different things, one cannot be mistaken for the other.
If it's the balancer the problem is rpm based and will vibrate when the car is in neutral and not moving, same goes for the flywheel.
If it's the driveshaft back it will only do it with the car in motion.
Since you are suggesting the vibration is speed sensitive, the problem is somewhere in the driveshaft and back.
Now say the problem is really at 3000rpm in 5th gear, what happens if you drive 3000 rpm in 4th gear, does the car vibrate? If not, it's not your balancer.
If for some reason your balancer is bad, use ford racing or ATI only, the rest are crap.
If it's the U joints, just buy a ford racing aluminum driveshaft, the stocker is not worth new U joints or balancing.