Here are a few shift kits to take a look at....
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As far as brand names go, TransGo and B&M are excellent manufacturers.
As far as my transmission goes, I have an SCT hand-held tuner w/ free BAMA Performance tunes for life. You tell them what mods you've got on the car and they write you a tune for the entire car. Included in that tune is a complete remapping of the automatic transmission shift points along with increased line pressure (for firm, tire-chirping immediate shifts). This is what I've got. It completely transformed my transmission.
4.10 gears refers to the gear set in the rear differential. Most V8 mustangs came with a 3.23 gear set from the factory. That means that for every 1 full revolution of the rear wheels, the drive shaft spins 3.23 times. 4.10 gears simply means that the drive shaft ow spins 4.1 times for every 1 full revolution of the rear wheels. How does that translate into performance? The 4.6L V8 motors don't have a whole lot of low-end grunt, meaning that they are a bit sluggish in the lower RPM range. The 4.6's really begin to scream when they are higher up in the RPM range. A higher numerical gear set (ex. 4.10's) means that the motor gets into it's upper RPM power band much quicker and easier, essentially putting more power to the wheels. The only downside is that the motor is obviously going to be spending more time in the upper RPM range, meaning that it's going to be sucking a bit more gas.....