update -
they put it back together, got the stock shifter in, got the brakes in
it still doesn't shift as the computer tells it to. it goes from 1st thru 3rd though with the manual override. it must be the wiring. there is no other possibility.
the charges are piling up again. i'm probably going to have to give this guy $3500 for the work he has done already (tranny rebuild, brakes, sway bar, steering column), and the thing is still not on the road. and the guy is really tired of having it in his shop.
it could cost probably me another $500 to have him to trace the wires back and see if everything is wired correctly. so i decided to get a manual valve body instead and circumvent the wiring altogether. i will have to bring the car home for 2 weeks while i am waiting for the VB to get here, and then bring it back in and put down another $200 for the install.
i have lost interest in all this ****, and i don't really have any interest in having the car back. at this point, i won't feel bad about selling the car and putting all this behind me.
maybe i would not have regretted all this if the guy who did the install knew what the f*** he was doing, or if i could have done most of the work myself, but this has now been going on for a year and cost a whole lot more than expected.
putting in this 410 and converting to automatic was the worst decision i have ever made.