If you're careful, a mallet can be used to put the seal in, in place of the proper diameter drift.
To install the rockers - start with #1 pair. Be sure all spark plugs are removed as it makes the engine easier to turn over. Rotate the engine clockwise with socket on the crank bolt and watch the pushrods. When the exhaust rod comes up, and begins to drop back down (valve would be closing if the rocker were on), the intake pushrod will begin to come up. Keep rotating until the intake rod comes back down - once it's all the way down (intake valve would be closed) -- then both lifters are on the base circle of the cam. Place a rocker, hand tighten it until there is zero lash (no gap on the valve tip end or the pushrod end). At that point - zero lash - place your torque wrench on the bolt and tighten to 18-20 ft-lbs. while counting the number of turns of the bolt. It should hit the torque in between 1/4 turn and 1 turn of the bolt AFTER zero lash is reached. If it takes more than 1 turn, shim the rocker up with .030" shims - one .030" shim reduces the number of turns by about 1/4. I usually try to get mine all to hit the torque between 1/2 and 3/4 turns. On my car that resulted in 11 rockers with no shims (they hit between 1/2 and 3/4 turns on their own), 5 rockers had a .030" shim, and 1 rocker had a .060" shim. If you have trouble reaching zero lash by hand, can't reach it at all (hit the torque and there's still a gap) or hit the torque in less than a 1/4 turn, that pushrod is too short. You can replace it with a shorter one, or remove a bit of material (carefully!) from the bottom of the fulcrum. If you follow the firing order of the engine, the next set of valves in the order will be just about ready to close the intake pushrod/valve (both lifters will be on the base circle of the cam) with just a little rotation from the previous pair.
The above instructions are for pedestal mount. Stud mount is similar except, once on the base circle, you tighten to zero lash, and then an additional 1/2 or 3/4 turn - see your rocker instructions. Once there, set the allen lock screws and move on to the next pair.
For paper gaskets (water pump, front cover, t'stat) I only use gasket dressing - Permatex Hylomar. I don't use RTV for paper gaskets - that's not what it's designed for. For rubber gaskets (the semicircular front cover rubber seal, metal/rubber valve cover gaskets, etc.) I just use a little white grease or Armor All to be sure the rubber slides and doesn't bind. I only use RTV on metal to metal machined surfaces (like the tail shaft housing to the main housing on a tranny for example) or on complex 3-plane seals - like the corners where the front cover, the oil pan and the block all come together. I put a dab in a corner like that. I also use rtv if I'm forced to use a cork gasket (there are none in my engine) - I lightly coat the entire cork gasket - inside, out, bottom, top - let it set up for few minutes and then install it. I only use Permatex high temp Copper RTV.
Hope that helps - good luck with it. Take your time, clean everything, you'll be fine. You're almost certain to get some debris into the water jackets and oil pan if the engine's in the car. Everytime you can, place rags or something into oil/water passages to keep debris from entering while you're cleaning. The lifter valley as well will get lots of stuff into it - lay rags in there before you start cleaning - then pick the rags up and the debris comes with them. Stuff paper towels in the ports and water passages to keep stuff out of them. Shop vac is invaluable for sucking debris out of the area after you've cleaned surfaces for new gaskets. If you're pulling headers off - be sure to use a straight edge to check the flatness/trueness of the flange surface. They tend to warp a bit with heat - it only costs a small amount to have a machine shop re-true the header flanges before you reinstall - it'll save you chasing a frustrating exhaust leak if they're not true. And be sure you disconnect the head pipes before you try to bolt them back on.
One more tip - you'll do yourself a big favor if you take your upper and lower manifold bolts to the hardware store with you and buy two bolts that match the short upper bolts; 4 bolts that match the lower bolts. Cut the heads off and use them as temporary locating dowels during assembly. On the lower, put them in the 4 corners, on the upper in the front and rear passenger side holes. They'll hold your gaskets in place, and allow you to place the manifold perfectly on the first try. Start a few of the other bolts, then simply remove them and replace them with the stock bolts. Works like a champ on valve covers and headers too - especially if you're working alone. Lastly - be sure to the get the t'stat gasket that has a peel off adhesive on one side - it will hold the t'stat in place during assembly (be sure to completely disconnect both the upper rad. hose and the bypass hose BEFORE you attempt to screw the t'stat housing back in. All those hoses/clamps should be replaced if they're not new.