Measure the voltage between the black wire and the green wire - don't use another ground. The ecu checks the tps voltage each time you start the car and uses that as it's idle reference. As long as it's between .80V and about 1.3V at idle with the throttle closed, things should work fine. If you have to set it somewhere - put it around .90-.95V.
To set the throttle stop correctly, back the stop screw out so the plate closes all the way. Insert a .003 feeler blade between screw and stop - tighten til the screw just touches the feeler; remove the feeler and turn the screw another 1/4 turn. As a practical matter, I just turn it 1/4 turn more once it touches the stop. Set that BEFORE you set your tps.
Once the throttle stop is set, and the tps is set, with the ignition on, engine off, leave your volt meter hooked up and slowly open the throttle. The voltage should smoothly climb from .95V up into the 4 to 5V range as you open the throttle more.