First and foremost, the first thing to do is add a cooler to that transmission.
Secondly, do the J-Mod shift kit and only the J-Mod kit. There is different settings you can do. If a hard shift is not for you go with a lesser setting from the get go.
Finally add a tune, I should be more specific, a SCT tune. If the car shifts to hard after the tune, you can back it off from there.
The way I described it is the best way to go about it. This is the way that J, who designed the 4R70W auto and J-Mod kit would recommend it and he recommended this long before SCT came into existance. I have a few friends who were Ford Transmission techs and this is how they would recommend you go about it. This is the way I went about it and couldn't be any happier.