I recently swapped in some 3.73s (full 31 spline setup at the same time). I picked up at least 3 mph over the stock gears, maybe more in cooler weather. Definitely a worthwhile mod for the auto with the long 1st gear and a stock converter.
With stock height tires (25.66") and turning 6500 rpm (you might turn more, idk) with 4.10s, 3rd gear will get you 121 mph (not enough for the 1/4 mile for your setup) and overdrive will get you 172 mph.
Everyone prefers different things, but I'm of the opinion that 4.10s will be way too much gear. Coming from experience with my own car and the troubles of sticking the tires on the street, you will NEVER hook 1st gear unless on good drag radials or slicks at a well prepped track. Heck, I doubt it's going to stick in 2nd gear. My car, not making anywhere near the power you will, and with only 3.73s, and with a lower stall, has a hard time sticking 1st gear on the street. If I was doing your build, I'd go 3.73s at the absolute most, probably 3.55s.
That being said, you can always finish your build and swap the gears out afterwards if you don't like them.