do not put any stop leak crap in your transmission- fix the leak. It could be bad shifter seals or a tail shaft seal . When you drop the pan inspect what is in there- of you see excessive metal or clutch material then a reuild may be in store. Do not flush the system- when you hook up your car to the machine you are running all of the dirty fluid from every other car that was run before into your transmission. I would also suggest drilling and tapping the pan for a drain hole and gluing a getting a magnetic drain plug to catch the metal shavings or.
You are wrong on the shift kit- a firmer shift helps the transmission life by not wearing the bands and clutches as much, I would also highly recommend getting the largest plate style trans cooler you can fit in ffront of the radiator. Personally I would replace the valve body with a silver fox unit but if you go with a shift kit then a transgo is decent.
Unless you swapped cams and/or heads or a poweradder, there is no benefit in a higher stall converter on an otherwise stock motor.. It also adds more heat so that goes back to the need for a trans cooler.
If your car is stock, just get Dex/Merc IV, and a OEM trans filter, and pan gasket from any parts store.,