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Wow. I didn't realize we were on Dr Phil....
ANY relationship is a give and take. Any of them. That doesn't mean she's allowed to "snatch" your cell. That makes it sound like she was a controlling bitch. And you say she's miserable now. Truth is she was probably miserable then, too. But she got something out of the deal - she got her garage cleaned out, which was probably her only reason for letting you work on your project. I can only guess that she knew about your "obsession" with cars beforehand, but she probably either A) didn't totally understand what that meant and there was no compromise between the 2 of you, or B) thought she could change you into who she thought you needed to be (in other words, control you). You're both better off without each other since it sounds like it was a toxic mess.
I personally know a number of families where the wife supports the husband's car obsession. Not that I know Mike personally, but I'd venture to say he's another. My uncle has rebuilt dozens of cars as a hobby and sells them to recoup his expenses. He also has 2 vehicles of his own and has built 3 for my cousins. My aunt doesn't seem to mind and supports him. She's not big into cars herself, but there have been a couple cars that my uncle has built for her, too. I guess the moral of the story, if there is one, is that she may not be into the hobby but she should at least be supportive of you with yours. And you should support her with hers. That doesn't seem to be rocket science. I'd call it balance.
But, I think, it's increasingly hard to find in today's society. There's too much "me me me" out there. And that goes for almost all things, not just the opposite gender. America's narcissism is showing BIG TIME right now.....
Since my name was dropped,..I guess my personal account comes into play.
When I started dating Kate there was no car in my life, but I was a car guy.We got about 5-7 years in, and the car guy came out..I was building the first Zephyr in 1990..5 years after getting married. The black and white car.
It soon became obvious that enjoying the car, meant hanging out with a bunch of guys on a Saturday night instead of her..
It took less than a year to figure out that math...This car got sold..
So did two or three others in between this one..
and at least 4-5 others that i’m not including that were in between the last ones listed.....
All gave way to her...
Simple really...sleeping with the car vs sleeping with her...she won every single time.