Lord Namrennab said:I just went through the same thing a few days back...Except i was engaged to her, but for a few months prior to our breakup...i changed, i changed from who she fell in love with to someone totally different..I don't like who i have become, i promised to change, but she can't handle it, she doesn't have those type of feelings for me anymore, she loves who she fell in love with, but that person seems to no longer exist, except when i'm with her.
It hurts so very much, like my heart was ripped out and then smashed with a hammer many times over, then thrown in a blender...yes it hurts. But somehow, i have to get over this...i don't know how i can, but somehow i have to, or i'll be miserable for the rest of my life.
You also have to get over it, it won't be easy, i know that, but it has to be done.
I'm 19 yrs old, not much older than you, im coming up on my 20th year...I didn't even get to have my 2nd christmas with her.
However unlike you, my thoughts have ventured elsewhere, since i was younger i wanted to be a part of something much bigger, i wanted to join the army, and now..now i'm going to do it. I don't have anything holding me back, and it seems like i don't have much to lose..So i'm going to do it.
Im sorry to hear about the loss man, trust me i understand, so do millions of people, because relationships are very hard to work out, and it takes time before you can find that right person you can live with forever. I dont believe in "meant to be" but it takes 2 special people to be able to work it out. You guys just werent meant to be, trust me, i know how it is nothing anyone says or anything you do makes you feel better, it just takes time, ive learned alot through this, and realised so much, patience and time is all it takes. Good luck in the army, you will be happy!